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Yvettep
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Posted on Friday, September 28, 2007 - 04:45 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

"I may have snow on my roof, but there's still a fire burning in my hearth." (Or some such saying! LOL) That's what came to mind when I read this recently about sexual intimacy in nursing homes. I used to pay these kinds of stories no mind. But the older I get the more I believe I should py attention to them.

...Old people have plenty of intercourse when they're not in an institutional setting. A survey published last month in the New England Journal of Medicine found that a quarter of those between the ages of 75 and 85 were having sex, and many were doing it at least once every couple of weeks. A third of these sexually active respondents said they had either given or received oral sex in the past year.

There's no reason to think that nursing-home residents would be any less frisky, if left to their own devices. After all, we're talking about a mixed-sex population living in close quarters with almost endless amounts of free time. Already, staffers routinely field patient requests for personal lubricants, pornographic magazines, larger-size beds, and prescriptions for Viagra. And that's with the 1.6 million elderly residents who came of age before the sexual revolution. Within a few decades, nursing homes will be replete with the desires and expectations of almost 7 million liberated baby boomers.

For now, though, never mind what they want: We seem content to let our elders lie in celibate repose as they wait for Oscar, the death-sniffing cat. In most nursing homes, residents are relegated to narrow mattresses with very little privacy. Nurses enter rooms without knocking, and express disgust at masturbation or coupling, and in some cases, residents are even deprived of conjugal visits from their long-term partners. (This 2004 case study [PDF] from Clinical Geriatrics describes a 77-year-old resident who is instructed by his doctor to "take cold showers" when he complains of sexual issues.) Overseas, elderly patients seem to enjoy a bit more open-mindedness; at one home in Denmark, you can even call out for hookers and X-rated movies. But most nursing-home residents in the United States suffer under a regime of tyrannical chastity...

Full story (w/hyperlinks): http://www.slate.com/id/2174855/
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Cynique
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Posted on Friday, September 28, 2007 - 05:21 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

LMAO. The visuals one gets from picturing senior citizens gettin it on is what plunges younger people into a state of denial about geriatric sexuality. EU.

Oprah recently had some women in their 60s on who were enjoying swingin sex lives. "Cougars", the moniker given to older women who take up with younger men, are coming into their own because they bring experience and serenity to the bed room. Meanwhile, the rallying cry of the viagra set is "use it or lose it!"

Liberated from the fears of pregnancy and the pressures of raising children, many retirees see no reason to repress their sexuality. So now 80 is the new 60 and 60 is the new 40 and the bed springs are creaking. Do I know whereof I speak? Yessss! Ooops. I mean no.
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Chrishayden
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Posted on Saturday, September 29, 2007 - 10:15 am:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Senior citizens having sex is like a flasher exhibiting himself before a blind woman--

They need to be concentrated on meeting their makers than make believe
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Cynique
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Posted on Saturday, September 29, 2007 - 11:34 am:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Speak for yourself, chrishayden. Try as you may, you cannot overcome your innate prudishness. And contrary to popular belief, to some older women their "maker" is the guy who gets them between the sheets, where they may or may not cry out Jesus' name, - something you would finid out if you'd ever eavesdropped on a conversation at a bridge table.

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