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Mzuri
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Author, ex-hubby mired in post-divorce warfare
Phillip Matier, Andrew Ross
Sunday, January 21, 2007
Fifteen months after her bitter divorce and an appearance on Oprah, Bay Area author Terry McMillan says the younger man who once helped her get her groove back -- only to break her heart by coming out of the closet -- is making her life a living hell.
And, from the looks of things, it's about to get worse. McMillan's hairstylist ex-husband, Jonathan Plummer, has signed a book deal with Simon & Schuster for a fictionalized tell-all account based on his decadelong relationship with McMillan, whose own novel and movie about their early romance, "How Stella Got Her Groove Back," was an international best-seller.
Life for McMillan is anything but groovy these days. She says she's afraid to leave her home and accuses Plummer of trying to bleed her for money and threatening to release embarrassing anti-gay slurs she left on his answering machine if she doesn't go along.
For his part, Plummer says his ex-wife misinterpreted his motives.
"He is like a f -- Duracell, and I want him out of my f -- life, and he won't let me out of his life. I can't live like this,'' McMillan said in an emotionally charged interview that ranged from rage to tears. We also received several e-mails from her, including this plea: "I just do not want to end up dead because no one did anything to stop him.''
A flash point came when Plummer left a message on the answering machine at McMillan's 7,000-square-foot home in Blackhawk last March, telling her, "There are people that are dying to hear the messages, and it will definitely put you back on the homophobic ... um, you know, stereotype again.
"All this can go away, you know, if you just, you know, make an offer because I just thought I was treated bad ... poorly I guess with the settlement offer and ... I just thought, you know, it's just something for me to see if I can get back on my feet again because you know I'm struggling,'' Plummer said.
McMillan filed for divorce from Plummer in January 2005 following 6 1/2 years of marriage. That was not long after Plummer -- 23 years her junior -- disclosed he was gay and had been cheating on her.
Months of ugly publicity followed -- including revelations that McMillan had told Plummer in a letter that "the reason you're going to make a great fag is that most of you guys are just like dogs anyway. ... You do whatever with whomever pleases you and don't seem to care about the consequences."
She also left him a bottle of Jamaican hot pepper sauce on which she wrote, "Fag Juice Burn Baby Burn," and scrawled "Jonathan's fag boyfriend fag" on a photo of a friend.
Plummer acknowledged to us that he had left the phone message asking for money -- but insists it was simply one last attempt to put their feuding behind them instead of continuing to talk about it in the press.
"Basically, I was saying if you don't want me to do any more interviews, just make me an offer -- and she calls it extortion,'' Plummer said.
At the time of their divorce, each side had filed a restraining order against the other, and it looked like things might cool down.
Plummer, who asked for spousal support as part of the divorce, eventually settled for $28,000, plus $27,000 more for his attorney, according to McMillan.
Just after the divorce was finalized, the pair appeared together on Oprah Winfrey's show in November 2005. But instead of smoothing things over, the appearance degenerated into a replay of their split.
And the feuding and finger-pointing haven't let up.
McMillan says Plummer filed "bogus bankruptcy papers'' from his failed dog-grooming business and left her holding the bag for back taxes on $32,000 in income he didn't disclose to the Internal Revenue Service. When she replied with a "cease and desist'' letter, she says, Plummer retaliated with the threat to go public with her phone messages.
McMillan says she went to the FBI, but the agency called it a civil matter and wouldn't touch it.
Eventually, the pair filed fresh restraining orders against each other -- with his accusing her (she says falsely) of threatening "to kill him or have him killed.''
These days, McMillanis writing a book about the trauma she's endured and how the court system let her down. She continues to insist that Plummer, a Jamaican, married her only to get his U.S. citizenship.
Plummer works in a hair salon just 10 minutes from McMillan's house and is also working on his book, "Balancing Act," with a former New York Daily News reporter, Karen Hunter. It is scheduled for release this summer.
"A black woman scorned is the worst kind of scorn -- and I've felt it from Terry,'' Plummer said. "That's why I'm doing this (book) -- to help (black men who have come out of the closet) and to give my spin on things.''
Plummer denies McMillan's claim that he married her for her money or to get citizenship, insisting he truly loved her when he left Jamaica at age 20 to live with her.
"I know she was hurt, but I was hurt, too ... and trying to be honest about my sexuality,'' he said.
Awhile later, he called us back: "Say,'' Plummer asked, "do you think you could mention where I work -- the Diablo Beauty Salon in Danville? I could use the clients.''
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2007/01/21/BAGOCNMFIR1.DTL
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Americansista
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Post Number: 253
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This male is pathetic. He actually called the interviewer back and asked for a plug for the beautyshop where he was working? What the hell is going on here? I guess his worthless, lazy azz has got to make money some way but this is just sad.
Really sad.
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Abm
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Post Number: 8063
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Gay male west indian golddiggers gottah eat too. So here's hoping his book's makes the New York Times Bestseller listing!
I can't WAIT to read the part where he explains how Terri KNEW he was a f*g long BEFORE they married. |
Americansista
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Post Number: 256
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Abm, the combination stench of astroglide, azz and kum on his body should have been a dead giveaway to Terri!
HOLLAH!!!!
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Abm
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Wednesday, January 24, 2007 - 01:13 pm: |
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Americansista,
Hahahaha!!! You would think.
Perhaps that...and the couple dozen tapes of GAY porn Terri freely ADMITS to having found in the trunk of his car should have sent off some QUEER smoke signal too. |
Mzuri
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Post Number: 3186
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AstroGlide  |
Ntfs_encryption
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Post Number: 1604
Registered: 10-2005
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"I can't WAIT to read the part where he explains how Terri KNEW he was a f*g long BEFORE they married."
Yeah, she probably knew. But the pipe was so good coming from a buck old enough to be her son, she thought she could change him. Didn't work. It's hard to believe for ten years she did not know something. Oh well, now she's just whining and playing the victim. Have we seen this play before? Hmmmmmmm........
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Americansista
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Post Number: 259
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OOh, that's right! She sho did find some gay porn in his car trunk! LOL! Poor Terri.
On a side note...I wonder when Star Jones is going to come to grips about Big Gay Al, lol! |
Ntfs_encryption
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Post Number: 1606
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Wednesday, January 24, 2007 - 01:29 pm: |
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"On a side note...I wonder when Star Jones is going to come to grips about Big Gay Al."
Same....same...they all knew... |
Urban_scribe
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Wednesday, January 24, 2007 - 01:33 pm: |
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This is odd because in TM's novel A Day Late and a Dollar Short she wrote about a teenage boy's mother who thought he was gay, so she snooped through his room for evidence and came across gay porn mags. TM wrote that novel while married to JP. Maybe that was art imitating life. How could she not know, or at least suspect? The guy's got qu-eer written all over him. |
Mzuri
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I can't even feel sorry for Terry M. She had no business going to Jamaica and bringing back a man regardless of whether he was gay or not. It's not as if there aren't enough men in the U.S. She could have found somebody right here if she wasn't trippin. And now with the drama of him being nearby and her feeling threatened - I wonder if she ever thought about MOVING!!! Isn't that what the rest of us do when we want to get away from a man??? We make a move and we don't even have her dollars. Damn!!!
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Americansista
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Mzuri, I think Terri's book imitates her life.
Have you ever noticed a common thing about her books? Let's take...hmmm..Okay..the books, "Mama", "Disappearing Acts", "Waiting to Exhale".
All the women for the most part were either: A) Insecure and manless or B) With some poor excuse for a man.
The man ALWAYS had some sort of issue: He's gay, he drinks or he's a cheater.
Her sister, Rosalyn is the same way, except her books are more Jackie Collin-ish. |
Cynique
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I am not that sympathetic toward Terry, either. Mostly because she is as crazy as Jonathan is pathetic. They are both drama queens. It's incredible that anybody as "earthy" as she is could be so naive when it comes to men. Plus this dude doesn't even look that good. If young men were her thing, with her money and fame she could've done a whole lot better. |
Americansista
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^^^
I saw her interview on Oprah and to me, I could have sworn she flirted with him a little bit. Also why were her eyes all over the place when she spoke?
Yep, she may be a little OFF. |
Ntfs_encryption
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"I am not that sympathetic toward Terry, either. Mostly because she is as crazy as Jonathan is pathetic. They are both drama queens."
True. I seen and read her whining and playing the helpless victim numerous times. It's pathetic. She knew what she was getting into. I don't agree with what her former gay muffin gigolo is doing but she gets no sympathy from me either.
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Mzuri
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I haven't read any of Terry's books, but I saw "Stella." I don't read any fiction at all. But damn - does one need to actually have the experience in order to write about it. I write about stuff that I never experienced at all.
If her books are about insecure women then it's no wonder she's a best selling author, so many women revolve their lives around a friggen man to the point that they don't even take care of themselves.
I had a girlfriend (co-worker actually) that was into her third marriage and the husband was a straight up dog. She found this man in a HOMELESS SHELTER while she was going around trying to minister to folks. She married him and brought him into her home and after that he was thankless, critical, cheated on her, and he probably beat her but she didn't tell me that part.
Anyway, I told her to put him out and all she had to say about it was that it was her third marriage and she didn't want it to fail. Duh!!! It's already failed dumbdumb. She eventually got rid of him but that whole episode could have been avoided.
Note to self: Write a book about an insecure woman who is on her third failed marriage.
LOL!!!
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Americansista
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That's a damn shame about your co worker but sadly there are many women like that.
BTW, girl..yes, Terry's books seem to have a common premise: Women desperately searching for Mr. Right, find a few duds they FUK along the way and usually end up alone but with more self empowerment and self esteem. Her books also deal with Alcoholism (the characters) and I believe in two of her books folks suffered from either Seizures of Asthma.
Her book 'Disappearing Acts' use to piss me off. I remember I had to put down the book for a while before finishing it. Franklin was TRIFLING and Zora was a damn glutton for punishment. It got more and more ridiculous with each page.
'Mama' was good; in fact I think that was her best book. I believe it was a semi-autobiography. |
Mzuri
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Well damn, why doesn't she seem to have any self-esteem then. Most of us have had a bad relationship or been divorced or whatever and it's depressing, but it's not a hill to die on. Even if she's having a bad time she shouldn't let it become public knowledge. Move away, get another man or a vibrator or something and get over it. Like everybody else.
I saw Disappearing Acts on HBO. Both of those characters had issues, but I would never accept that sort of conduct from a man - taking out the garbage and not coming back for days. The moment he got flakey, I would show his ass straight to the door.
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Abm
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Ntfs,
You should have seen the expressions on Oprah's face when she suspiciously asked Terri about her being unaware that Jonathan was f*gging it.
In a word: PRICELESS!!!
Americansista,
Americansista: "...I wonder when Star Jones is going to come to grips about Big Gay Al come to grips about Big Gay Al".
I'm figuring Star cums to grips what with that every time Big Gay Al and his boyfriend cQQter-pQQpers her.
Urban_scribe,
Either Terri knew he was gay, she's nuttier than a Baby Ruth bar...or BOTH. |
Chrishayden
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Poor Terry:
At one time the woman had real credibility in the literary and academic worlds--then she went showbiz. |
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