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Serenasailor
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Post Number: 283
Registered: 01-2006

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Posted on Sunday, February 12, 2006 - 11:25 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

I have always like to think that I came from a proud black family. My father was a lightskinned high yellow man and my mother was a deep dark chocolate woman. I never once heard my parents say anything bad about dark-skinned people. I was with my brother and his Latina wife the other day and my brother was so proud of his two little light-skinned daughter. He made a joke that one of his daughters was black and the other one was Mexican. I was a little disturbed by that. He was actually proud of the fact that he was able to produce a non-black child. He told me once that he did not want to be with a black woman because he thought that they were not beautiful in his eyes. My sister claims to hate dark-skinned black men. Probably becuase she was discriminated by them.(I don't really know, but I am not making excuses for her either). But I myself love black ppl and black women. Where did this hate for blackness come from in my family? Who started it? How did we perpetuate it? I try to find answers but no one can seem to help me. What do you think? Should my parents have done more to instill love for our culture in us? How can I change tthe tide? I have an eight year old nephew and I want to teach him to love his culture. How do I do that?
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Kaotic
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Registered: 02-2006

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Posted on Monday, February 13, 2006 - 01:11 am:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Lead by example!
If you feel that your nephew will not learn about his culture properly from your brother and his wife then you should give your nephew as well as your niece examples of their black culture. Give them illustrations and literature that will let them know where their ancestors derived from. I'm sure that their Latin side of the family will definitely teach them about their culture. Let them know it is acceptable to be a black individual. More than acceptable.
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Roxie
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Registered: 06-2005

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Posted on Monday, February 13, 2006 - 03:17 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Serenasailor,
Self-hate lurks in every black family,whether we notice it or not. Just to acknowledge it and do something about it's presence is pretty good in itself.

As for your nephew,
I'd say do with him what you think his father isn't: Take him to a black history museum. Watch a movie with him. Read him a positive story about african or african american people.
And better yet, show your own pride in yourself. At least he'll know his uncle's not ashamed.:-)

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