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Posted on Tuesday, September 26, 2006 - 02:35 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Black Men, Asian Women

By Rinku Sen

Posted September 20, 2006 .

As a South Asian woman with a long and pluralistic dating history, I am amazed these days to see two couples comprised of Asian women and Black men every week. The sugary romance between the excessively noble characters played by Parminder Nagra and Shafiq Atkins on ER follows the much hotter one between Ming Na Wen and Mekhi Phifer that ended two seasons ago. Grey's Anatomy features Sandra Oh in an up-and -down relationship with Isaiah Washington.

What accounts for such interest? It's as though these couples have been pouring out of medical schools and producers decided to capture the trend.

The representations tread the line between cultural authenticity, sometimes considered stereotype, and colorblindness. The women exhibit some level of conflict with their cultures and are slightly neurotic: Ming Na dreaded telling her immigrant parents that she was having a baby out of wedlock; Nagra quit her job in a bout of rebellion against family expectation to work as a convenience store clerk. The men are dangerous but tender. Phifer grew up without a father and has a temper; Gallant went off to serve in Iraq. I did laugh at the effort to bridge cultures, though, when Nagra's character got married wearing a white sari. White is the Hindu color of mourning.

The hype about interracial television couples is that Americans have moved so far past race they don't even notice. "Honestly, we really don't even talk about it or consider that it's an interracial couple,"said ER's Executive Producer David Zabel in an interview with Diversity Inc. He claims that a quick look at MTV proves that younger people don't draw those lines.

Web-surfing indicates that younger people do indeed draw those lines, at least for purposes of fulfilling their attractions. On Tribe NY, I found a group for Asian women who love Black men, and on Blasian.com I found Black men who love Asian women. The website African and Asian American Unity has tools for getting to know the other culture that include instructions on how to keep a bonsai, cook Chinese greens and participate in Kwanzaa. It also has a highly insightful advice column, "Ask Mike," in which a bald, slim, goateed Black man will answer your romantic questions at great length for free. The vast majority of questions were from people under 25 wanting to know how they could find, keep or correct their Black or Asian partner.

An Analysis of Desire

While the number of such actual couples remains small (an unknown but undoubtedly tiny portion of the 2 percent of U.S. residents in interracial marriages), there does appear to be a dramatic growth among daters in particular places.

Particular neighborhoods in Brooklyn and Los Angeles seem to have become havens for Black men seeking Asian women and vice versa. While sitting on her stoop in Ft. Greene, Brooklyn, a Japanese friend was approached by an Asian woman walking with her baby stroller. The woman asked whether my friend had any kids. She was searching for potential members of a group for kids with a Black father and Asian mother.

What accounts for the sudden attraction? Darrell Hamamoto, professor of Asian American studies at the University of California-Davis, believes it is rooted in prevailing stereotypes stemming from Black men's military experiences in Asia. Hamamoto gained some notoriety as the producer of a pornographic film featuring Asian sex, his effort to complicate and abandon the stereotypes of oversexed Asian women and impotent Asian men. He asserts that the U.S. military draws large numbers of Black men looking for a ladder to the middle class, whose status changes when they go abroad. These men see Asian women as subjects of the American--and, by implication, their own--empire.

"This trend is rooted with American colonialism and occupation. Material and historical forces shape these relationships,"said Hamamoto. "You have three, four, five generations of African-American men who have served oversees in Asia, whose experience with Asian women has been pretty intense in a foreign land where they are treated not as subordinate people but as superior Americans."

Marlon Ross, professor of English and African American Studies at the University of Virginia, raised a methodological question about this theory. "I'm not sure that African-American men have been involved in sexual relationships with Asian women in that context any more than white men; it's just that when African-American men are doing it, it gets noticed more,"said Ross. That doesn't mean, however, that stereotypes don't come into play. "Our desires are fashioned by consumption, by the media and by commerce in very deep-seated ways that we may not even recognize. That fashioning of what is desirable, certainly a large part of it is racially defined," he added.

It seems likely that the increase in this kind of dating owes more to demographics than anything else, and such couples continue to face challenges. None of the couples I heard from or about while reporting this story had any military background whatsoever, and all had faced or expected strong resistance from the Asian partner's family. Performer Kate Rigg wrote a song for one of her Asian dancers:

My boyfriend's Black and there's gonna be trouble My parents want to live in a Negro-free bubble.

Mutual Attraction

Two things have been changing since my family immigrated in 1972. The identity of Asian immigrants has shifted from mostly middle-class professionals to working-class economic refugees, and these people have moved into urban centers and suburbs simultaneously with upwardly mobile Black families. The couples I spoke to met after finding themselves in the same place at the same time.

Aarti, a 26-year-old activist of Indian descent, found her first Black boyfriend at 15 when she left her fully multiracial public school for a scholarship to a prep school where the students were polarized between Black and white. "I really felt that I had no choice. My body type in high school was much more voluptuous than it is now, and that just really took the white guys out,"she said. Aarti does not discuss her dating life with her parents. She recalls that one time when she brought home a Black boyfriend "as a friend," her father felt the need to craft a long explanation for his presence to an extended family member. She further noted that among her South Asian peers she received far more stigmatizing attention for "only dating Black" than did those who only dated white.

Mark is a 42-year-old Black chiropractor living with his 44-year-old Filipina wife of 16 years in Vallejo, California. Mark was born and raised in Vallejo, where Filipinos started arriving when he was about 11, and his wife's family immigrated then. The couple draws the same number of stares from Blacks and Asians as they did in the 1980s, and also faced family conflict in spite of having grown up together. "My family was more open initially than hers, even though we had all known each other. The only way I can put it is, African Americans in America are at the bottom." Mark dated all kinds of women, but said he "always had a thing for Asian women. It's just a personal preference."

Hamamoto's theory would suggest that such a preference was grounded in a sexual stereotype of submissive Asian women. I am familiar with our so-called seductress image. My Asian girlfriends and I spent our college years snottily rejecting the few white men who came around as "rice lovers." While I did experience an American man mentioning the Kama Sutra within five minutes of meeting me recently in New York, my adolescent self- image was much closer to nerd than slut. To see all these Asian women who might also have been high-school nerds paired up with the most sexualized actors in American culture has been, I will admit it, a thrill. However, in real life, Asian women and Black men don't get to be both equally sexy and smart. "It's easier for a Black man to get his foot in the door when he's with me, "said Aarti, "especially if we're working."

At least in the popular culture, there has been a long-standing attraction between Blacks and Asians. Rigg cites the generations-old Black obsession with martial arts movies, as well as the Asian adoption of hip-hop culture. And Asians look up to Blacks as the standard-bearers for civil rights activism. "It would be a big turn-on for an Asian girl or guy to be with people who have been more successful in asserting their rights," said Rigg. "This is a case of like likes like. A Black person is less likely to be as racist as a white person when it comes to dating an Asian girl. Anda Black person might not feel as oppressed as they would by a white person in their family structure."

Still, if television reflects more fantasy than reality, whose fantasy is this? The real breakthrough would be to pair a Black woman and an Asian man. There hasbeen no Black woman doctor on ER since Michael Michele left in the early years. Grey's Anatomy's character list includes only a married, middle-aged Black woman. There have been no Asian men in either cast. Black women and Asian men seem to be aware that they haven't made it to the top of America's desirability scale, and that they need each other. Their questions to "Ask Mike"outnumber the others, two to one. A television hospital coupling would surely help them.

Rinku Sen is the publisher of ColorLines magazine and communications director of the Applied Research Center (ARC).
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Posted on Tuesday, September 26, 2006 - 02:48 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Ooooopppps! Sorry about that. This particular post has been previously posted. I didn't find out until now. No need to respond to it. It's a past and covered article. Again, sorry about that.
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Posted on Tuesday, September 26, 2006 - 04:26 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Great article. Great to see that more Asian women and black men are getting together. It warms the heart.
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"Great to see that more Asian women and black men are getting together. It warms the heart."

Really? Ok. I have no problems with it. Ha! ha! ha! Ha!
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Really? Ok. I have no problems with it. Ha! ha! ha! Ha!

The more brothers who date Asian women, the better.
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Posted on Tuesday, September 26, 2006 - 09:00 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Ok......
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Posted on Tuesday, September 26, 2006 - 09:09 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Ok......

Don't you agree that is a beautiful thing? Especially since Asian women have such pretty hair and skin to set off a black man's rugged physique, small brain and tough hair. Its a wonderful combination that will lead to beautiful children, like Amerie. If such a couple has daughters, they won't even need to wear weaves or risk being dissed by black men.
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LMAO!!! And they can have kids that make up words to describe their genetic make up like: Caublinasian, Blackorean, Nignamese
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Posted on Tuesday, September 26, 2006 - 09:48 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

And Chigger. LOLOL!!!
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Chigger! LOL
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I didn't see the previous post of this article, NTFS. I found it very interesting. I'm surprised no mention was made of all of the "Amerasian" children left behind in Korea when the Korea conflict ended back in the 1950s. These children born of Korean prostitutes and black GI fathers were otracized and often abandoned by their mothers, and they came to comprise quite a tragic community of orphans. It was such a sad situation that a lot of Americans started adopting these poor children. In fact, I had a friend who adopted a girl of this mixed parentage and this child grew up so conflicted, trying so hard to fit in that she ended up committing suicide in her 20s. That was back in the 1960s. Those outcasts are all middle-aged now and I would imagine that a lot of those left behind subsequently immigrated to America. I know it wasn't uncommon for some of them to track down their black fathers with information they received from their Korean mothers, eventually ending up being welcomed into their black family circle. These are my recollections as a person of another generation.
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Posted on Tuesday, September 26, 2006 - 10:28 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

That is awful about that young woman committing suicide. So sad.
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this asian female looks good to me
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Posted on Wednesday, September 27, 2006 - 02:59 am:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

"Ooooopppps! Sorry about that. This particular post has been previously posted. I didn't find out until now."



You mean the one that you reponded to A FEW DAYS AGO:


http://www.thumperscorner.com/discus/messages/179/15871.html?1158855742


I know you're not that 'slow.'
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Sigh....no Tonya, I'm not that slow. As you know, I respond to a number of posts. Yes, I did respond to the original article. I thought this one was similar, but not exactly the same. I was mistaken. But then I thought about it and verified it was same author and article, I quickly issued an apology. I couldn't delete the post because of the 10 minute time limit for retracting posts. Ok...?


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"Don't you agree that is a beautiful thing? Especially since Asian women have such pretty hair and skin to set off a black man's rugged physique,..........If such a couple has daughters, they won't even need to wear weaves or risk being dissed by black men."

Good point!

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"I didn't see the previous post of this article, NTFS. I found it very interesting. I'm surprised no mention was made of all of the "Amerasian" children left behind in Korea when the Korea conflict........... their Korean mothers, eventually ending up being welcomed into their black family circle. These are my recollections as a person of another generation."

Unfortunately, it applies to Japan, Philippines and Vietnam. The children of black fathers have it very hard. I’ve been there and seen it. They are like a caste system. Asians are ultra racist when it comes to skin color and race. DO NOT DELUDE YOURSELF IN THINKING THEY ARE NOT! If you are not a member of their particular group, they look down on you. Chinese cannot stand the Vietnamese. The Japanese despise the Koreans. And the Northern Asians think Filipinos are less than human. In fact, I have had numerous arguments with Chinese and Japanese about Filipinos not being Asians. THEY DO NOT CONSIDER THEM ASIANS!

When I lived in Japan, I had two friends who were Japanese and Filipino. The Japanese girl despised the Filipina and made very racist remarks about her. Although the Filipina was American (here grandfather was Japanese) she would become livid and use some very colorful language when discussing the Japanese. The Koreans who live in Japan are treated like black people in 1950! And I knew a young Chinese girl, although she was raised in Vietnam and spoke the language, she told me she despised the Vietnamese.
If you didn’t know it, listen up: THERE IS NO LOVE LOSS BETWEEN THE VIETNAMESE AND CHINESE!

I had never been called a “nigger” more as a black child growing up in a working class white neighborhood in Ohio (and I was called it quite often!)as I did when I lived in the Philippines. This is not to say all Filipinos are like that because that is not true. But I encountered some very racist Filipinos. I have quite a few stories to tell about my experiences in the Philippines. But I never, ever faced it when I lived in Japan. Not saying they weren’t thinking it, but they never expressed it verbally or by behavior. But Hong Kong, Taiwan and Korea were different.

Singapore is a little different (God! I love that place!). They have three major groups that live there; ethnic Chinese, Malaysians and Indians. The Indian women were absolutely gorgeous! They had dark silky skin, beautiful thick black hair and stunning eyes. But the Malaysians and the Chinese had the best bodies. Especially the ethnic Chinese who had curves and super legs and awesome calves. Oh yeah! Ok..ok…ok….I’m getting of the subject. They don't like to discuss it, but there is a lot of ethnic tension because of the three groups.

Asians are hyper sensitive to skin color. Lighter is better! And they are worse than black people when it comes to “light complexioned” vs. “dark complexioned”. Since the Filipinos and Thai’s are darker, they are looked down upon by the lighter Asians (Chinese, Vietnamese, Koreans and Japanese). THEY DO NOT WANT TO BE DARK! Bleaching cream is widely used and encouraged in the Philippines. It is very common to see Filipina women walking with umbrellas in the sun because of their aversion of getting dark. I had numerous Filipina women complain to me that they were ugly. Why? Well, they had stunningly beautiful hair, nice shapely bodies and cute faces…..but they were dark. Not dark by our standards (as black people) but darker than the lighter complexioned Filipinos. Because of that and that alone (dark skin), they felt they were ugly. True story.

One more thing, I gotta tell this story. I remember there was a club called the Harlem that the brothers hung out in. There were some very nice looking Filipina girls working in that club. There was a black Filipina girl that worked there also. She was very obnoxious and loud and most of the brothers avoided her. Physically, she had a very basic body that was lacking in those critical curves. She had a light-medium brown complexion, very nappy hair (which was somewhat unusual for a mixed Filipina girl) and a face that was….um…let’s just say it was not happening. Anyway, a friend of mine and I were drinking at a table and she came over to flirt with my partner. He wasn’t exactly rude to her, but he ignored her advances. As I said, there were some very attractive Filipina girls in that club who racking up all the attention and this black girl was not getting any play (not to mention the fact that she was drunk). When my partner rebuffed her, she screamed at him; “Oh! What is this? What is this? You think you’re better than me? You’re hair is just like mine!!” He didn’t say anything to her. Then she started cursing him out in Tagalong. Well, at that point we just got up and walked out. When we were walking down the stairs to leave, she followed us to the top of the stairs, still hollering at him. I guess he got enough of her insults and turned around and said to her, “Ya know what? That’s why nobody wants your ass -you nappy headed ugly bitch!” OMG! Why did he say that! She tossed a chair down the stairs and we had to haul ass to get out of the way. Then she came screaming down the stairs and chased him across the street up in to a hotel (The Jamaica). Boy, those were the days…..

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Thanks for that story Ntfs.






















It further cements your status as a self-hating, confused-in-the-head nigger. Thank GOD that knee-grows like you tend to go for non-black women. Let the Asian and white sisters put up with your embarrassment-to-the-black-race ass.
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LMAO!!! I was wondering when your sarcasm would end. *******flatlines*******

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Hehe, Fortified.

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"It further cements your status as a self-hating, confused-in-the-head nigger. Thank GOD that knee-grows like you tend to go for non-black women. Let the Asian and white sisters put up with your embarrassment-to-the-black-race ass."

Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! You are so funny. Your tired and pathetic silly accusations never cease to amaze me. No where in that thread did you see me say anything negative about black women. You also did not see where I gave preference to non-black women over black women. Perhaps you are dyslexic? Hmmmmm…..seems like your hyper sensitivity and insecurities boarders on twisted racist delusional paranoia. Just the mentioning anything about non-black women seems to send you into a tail spin of bitterness and unwarranted name calling. And your very tired and bogus accusations of self hatred clearly show you have no argument or valid points other than accusing someone of something that does not exist. Tell ya what –why don’t you continue to do what you enjoy most, call black men names and spewing your anti-black male shrill rhetoric. That seems like the only thing at this point you are capable of doing –as ridiculous and hypocritical as it is.


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I like black men, i just don't like niggers. Its pretty clear which category you fall into, Ntfs.
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from an article in the Washington Post

Observations from a Latina/Black woman
: I am from a Spanish-speaking Caribbean island...in my case, that means I am both black and Latina. So, I feel that I have a special insight in this topic. This is because I have noticed again and again that when African-American men learn that I am not just black, but also speak Spanish and come from a different culture their interest in me increases exponentially. I just feel that African-American men feel like they have a "prize" in their hands if they are not dating a plain jane African-American woman, but instead someone exotic that somehow elevates their status.

I have noticed that for them it's important to brag they are not just with a black woman, but also a Latina from the Caribbean AND who speaks Spanish...they are besides themselves!!!

Columbia, Tenn
.: I am a Black man and have solely dated light-skinned Black women with "good hair." Many Black people continue to have an issue with the color complex, but I admit to it. I am simply not attracted to dark-skinned women with kinky hair. I don't consider it self-hate because lighter skinned Black women are just as Black as their darker sisters. I am brave enough to admit that I prefer the "redbone" with good hair, and given a choice, I would date a Hispanic woman before I would date a dark-skinned Black woman.

Washington, D.C
.: I guess I take issue with the angry black woman stereotype. I am a black woman who has not considered race in my dating practices. I don't mind black men dating outside of their race; however I've been told several times by black men that they don't date black women. I currently see it as a strange sort of racism that seems to indicate some type of self loathing, though I am not well versed on the subject. I think your book sounds very interesting and that it might shed light on the issue for me. Do you have any advice for women like me who are starting to get discouraged because it seems that fewer men of any race are looking at black women as desirable?

Washington, D.C
.: I am an Af-Am woman and I don't care who Af-Am men date. But what I do care about is this notion that we are all fat, angry, uncultured and saddled with multiple children and "baby daddies". I don't have ONE FRIEND who has a child out of wedlock. My black girlfriends own property, have advanced degrees, travel the world and enjoy cultural arts. Maybe, my brothers, you ought to look beyond the superficial (is she a dime? is she hot like Beyonce or JLo) and you might find a black woman -- of that's what you want -- with similar interests, status and appeal.
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Posted on Wednesday, September 27, 2006 - 05:46 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Ntfs, to give you more to go by: examples on this board of Black MEN include ABM and NGO. You are not on the same level as either of them.
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”I like black men, i just don't like niggers. Its pretty clear which category you fall into, Ntfs.”

Oh really? And why is that? Details please. Sorry Boo Boo, but you are the one who continues with your racist name calling and juvenile taunts –not me! If you have noticed, I have yet to attack you with the same silly names and angst that you throw at me in every one of your childish rants. Why is that? Because you think I lack the ability to call you equally or worse names? I don’t think so. I look at you as a misguided and confused child who is lashing out at anyone that does not share or agree with her narrow and distorted view of life. That’s all. To be honest, you are mere entertainment for me. I look forward to your tantrums. I enjoy watching you rant and rave every time I push a button. Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha!

”Ntfs, to give you more to go by: examples on this board of Black MEN include ABM and NGO. You are not on the same level as either of them.”

Good! I’m not supposed to be. They are who they are and I’m who I am. Simple as that. And for the record, I don’t compare you to some of the more sophisticated and knowledgeable black women who post here. You’re just a rookie who has yet to grasp the complexities and contradictions of life my dear. That is why I am patient and understanding of your anguish and struggle. But keep posting. Your cretinous and tedious responses and posts make my day. Trust me! Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha!

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Posted on Wednesday, September 27, 2006 - 08:19 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

"It further cements your status as a self-hating, confused-in-the-head nigger. Thank GOD that knee-grows like you tend to go for non-black women. Let the Asian and white sisters put up with your embarrassment-to-the-black-race ass."


Amen sister amen. You could not have put it any better.
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Posted on Wednesday, September 27, 2006 - 08:48 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

"Amen sister amen. You could not have put it any better."

....or stupid.
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Posted on Wednesday, September 27, 2006 - 09:50 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

NTFS is an acronym for Nigger Too Fucked To See. :-)
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Posted on Wednesday, September 27, 2006 - 09:51 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

'Amen sister amen. You could not have put it any better.'


Thanks Tonya
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Posted on Thursday, September 28, 2006 - 11:11 am:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

IGBO is an acronym for I Got Booted Out from anything my stupid ass was ever a part of. LOLOL!!!
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Posted on Thursday, September 28, 2006 - 03:46 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

"IGBO is an acronym for I Got Booted Out from anything my stupid ass was ever a part of."

Oh! Ok. I thought it meant Ignorant Gorilla Bitch who’s Obnoxious. My bad.
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Posted on Thursday, September 28, 2006 - 04:50 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Actually the Igbo are a prominent tribe in Western Africa. But I wouldn't expect your sell-out self-hating-nigger ass to know that.
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Posted on Thursday, September 28, 2006 - 05:07 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

"Actually the Igbo are a prominent tribe in Western Africa. But I wouldn't expect your sell-out self-hating-nigger ass to know that."

Hummmm....Ok. So why are you here? Why aren't you back in the bush where you belong with your tribe?
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Posted on Thursday, September 28, 2006 - 05:37 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Well BOZO ASS CLOWN. It seems that you can dish it out but you can't take it. NTFS is an acronym for New Technology File System - and we already knew what an IGBO is. We really didn't need your monkey ass to break it down for us, so cut the drama, bullshit and indignation. I'll tell you what - don't start no shit and there won't be no shit. New rule: don't make fun of other people and they won't make fun of you. InkyDinkyDooDoo!!!

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Posted on Thursday, September 28, 2006 - 05:49 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

"InkyDinkyDooDoo!!!"

Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! LMO...!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Lil_ze and Ntfs are just cheerleaders for all the white and light-skinned women. But they turn around and berate BW for looking to Black. They are the reason why our race is in the turmoil it is in. Punk Niggers.

Then they sit around and wonder why nobody in the world loves and respects Black ppl. Well maybe Assholes you don't love and respect your damn selves.

Ntfs is the worse. Because he condemns anything that in the black culture that he deems "too black". While praising Black men for wiping out our culture by inbreeding.

Like Kola said BW just focus on the extinction of these men. Its not hard since they are already breeding themselves out anyway.
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Posted on Saturday, September 30, 2006 - 07:48 am:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

”Lil_ze and Ntfs are just cheerleaders for all the white and light-skinned women. But they turn around and berate BW for looking to Black. They are the reason why our race is in the turmoil it is in. Punk Niggers.

Then they sit around and wonder why nobody in the world loves and respects Black ppl. Well maybe Assholes you don't love and respect your damn selves.

Ntfs is the worse. Because he condemns anything that in the black culture that he deems "too black". While praising Black men for wiping out our culture by inbreeding.

Like Kola said BW just focus on the extinction of these men. Its not hard since they are already breeding themselves out anyway.”


Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! All right! The Court Clown and Jester is back! Thanks. Every time I read your childish rants it makes my day. But I guess I shouldn’t take glee in your mindless drivel and racist name calling. It’s very sad. But I can’t help it. Every time I see your tired and pathetic 1969 black nationalistic wannabe ass foaming at the mouth, trying to impress anyone who will read your insipid unoriginal rants, that you are blacker than anyone else, I practically fall out of my chair laughing! Your juvenile temper tantrums and asinine race baiting and personal attacks have become tedious and predictable. And since your Fragile X gene will not allow you to intellectually grasp the sickness and self hatred of calling another black person a “nigger”, there is not much hope for you.

Ignorant groundless accusations, profanity and race baiting are the only tools at your disposal. When someone post something you do not agree with, rather than debate the points of contention, your launch into your patented goofy diatribes; “….nigga, nikka, rant, rant, rant, punk ass, rant, rant, fuck you, nigga, rant, rant….” Nothing else comes from your keyboard. Just the same tired weak; “ Hey! Hey! Look at me! I’m blacker than you are! Check me out! See what I wrote! I’m black! I’m black! Uncle Tom nigga punk ass –look at me! See…See…Look at me!!! Why do you do this? BECAUSE YOU ARE INCAPBALE OF DOING ANYHTING ELSE! Let’s be honest here.

Move past your childish venomous name calling son and pick up a damn book, read it and take a few English courses! Your duplicitous attempts at being the Master at Arms for being black (?) and wildly lashing out at anyone who does not agree with your schizophrenic delusions of so-called blackness and politically correct race speech, is pathetic! You really need to grow up and expand that thimble sized “I’m the king of blackness” vapid world you live in. YOU ARE NOT MALCOLM! Ya got that!

Now, do what you do best (because you can’t do anything else) and call me some more names. Ok? Seriously, what else are you capable of doing…???

Are you ready? Let me give you a hand and start off your response to this post; ”Fuck you nigger!!! Fuck you, punk ass bitch, fuck, you. nigga, punk ass, nigga, nigga, fool, fuck you, Uncle Tom, nigger, self hatin black nigga, fuck, beyotch, nikka, nigga, hating black women punk, nigga, punk, punk, nigger,………….Comon’, your turn……..

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Posted on Thursday, October 05, 2006 - 04:47 pm:   Delete Post View Post/Check IP Print Post    Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

That just goes to show what a pathetic stupid self-hating nigger you really are. That fact of me showing that I love my race and my ppl makes you regard me as "too black and trying to imitate famous black nationalist. I never once said that I was trying to be like Malcolm X.

But of course to silly plantation niggers like you any black person who does anything that you deem "too black" via listen to hip hop music, wear their hair natural, or name their children names that you regard as to ethnic makes knee-grows like you want to puke.

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