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Brownbeauty123
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Username: Brownbeauty123
Post Number: 343
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 08:57 am: | 
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Is there something wrong with a man who is in his late 20s (26 and up) who still lives at home with his mom/dad?
If so, why?
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Robynmarie
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Username: Robynmarie
Post Number: 39
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 09:33 am: |
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Depends if he is just a "scrub" or if he is wearing scrubs, studying to be a doctor, or some such.
Fully grown, perfectly healthy young men (and women) don't want to leave the nest for some reason.
That said, other cultures (Vietnamese-Americans, for example) encourage family members to live under the same roof to pool their financial resources. |
Brownbeauty123
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Username: Brownbeauty123
Post Number: 344
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 12:08 pm: |
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My friend is 29 years old, in college, never has had a car, or his own apartment; he lives with his sister.
It's a great thing that he decided to change his life around, and better his educational background to attain a good career. But even with that being said, 29 is just too damn old to be mooching off of relatives. At that age, just going to college is just not enough. A job AND school, along with a car and your own apartment is much more suitable.
He is wonderful person. But comes across as such a moocher a lot of the times. If I happen to be grabbing me a bite to eat at a restaurant while I'm on my cell with him he'll try to get me to purchase him something too. He has the nerve to want me to go out of my way to take it all the way over to where he lives so he can pay me. Every. single. time. he does that shit. I haven't done it once, though. He's never had a car of his own so he makes deals with friends to buy him food and bring it over to him.
There are so many black males who are just like him that I wonder if its become acceptable in a way. |
Ntfs_encryption
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Username: Ntfs_encryption
Post Number: 251
Registered: 10-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 01:42 pm: |
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"There are so many black males who are just like him that I wonder if its become acceptable in a way."
Is it genetic..??? |
Chrishayden
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Username: Chrishayden
Post Number: 2330
Registered: 03-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 01:58 pm: |
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I used to think it was not okay--
Then I saw how the Asians and other groups do it--how they pool their resources, how the man is there to help contribute until he gets married--
But then again these groups love their children.
Negroes can't wait to throw their children to the dogs (one of the reasons why the Atlanta Child murderer was able to strike--nobody watching--nobody really wanted them until they were gone
You wonder why the hell people have them if they want to throw them out so fast? All is going to happen is they are going to have to move in with them when they get old and sick |
Fortified
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Username: Fortified
Post Number: 108
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 02:40 pm: |
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It's smart if he has a concrete plan. If he is just working for minimum wage, pissing away his dollars on liquor and weed and expecting his food cooked and laundry done--he is a SCRUB, plain and simple... |
Chrishayden
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Username: Chrishayden
Post Number: 2332
Registered: 03-2004
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 02:45 pm: |
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Why does a black man have to be pissing away his dollars on liquor and weed and expecting his food cooked and laundry done? Why do these images immediately spring to mind? Always something negative when a black man is doing something.
And people wonder if Wayne Williams could have killed all those boys! He was doing them a favor. They were only going to grow up and be nothing--
Why did you leave out injecting cocaine and raping white women to round out the lovely picture? |
Fortified
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Username: Fortified
Post Number: 109
Registered: 04-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 03:34 pm: |
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^^^^Did you not read my post? I said if he is living at home and has a concrete plan for his future, than staying at home is smart--you are saving money. Reading is fundamental. |
Kenology
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Username: Kenology
Post Number: 50
Registered: 05-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Thursday, June 22, 2006 - 08:55 pm: |
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My children will be able to stay with me as long as they like. |
Brownbeauty123
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Username: Brownbeauty123
Post Number: 350
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 12:08 am: |
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"Is it genetic..???"
Your father could answer that one. |
Doberman23
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Username: Doberman23
Post Number: 418
Registered: 01-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 12:36 am: |
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I know a whole bunch of girls and i mean a whole bunch too that still live with their parents, and no one says a dang thing about it to them. my girlfriend still lives with her parents and she's 26 and i don't think anything of it. not because i think it's ok for women but not ok for men, but because she's doing what she has to do to tighten her belt and get done with school and not be a slave to student loan debt. when i moved out of my apartment and stayed with my moms before i bought my house, it only made since not to release again for 6 months or until right before i purchased my crib ...when i could just save more staying at my moms. where i resided at the time and where i reside now should only be a concern to someone if they plan on living with me or if they plan to pay my mortgage payments.
i think trying to live up to other peoples standards and social views is what gets some people in trouble... especially young black males and females. |
Ntfs_encryption
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Username: Ntfs_encryption
Post Number: 252
Registered: 10-2005
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 03:02 am: |
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"Your father could answer that one."
Really? Why is that? |
Femrenoir
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Username: Femrenoir
Post Number: 38
Registered: 05-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006 - 08:48 pm: |
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I agree we put too much pressure on our selves to 'look good' right now. I think it is especially bad for our young men and kills the call for 'deferred gratification'. If your friend lives in the city, then a car is a big liability; but otherwise, it's pretty standard for a 29 year old. Maybe he's holding out for a car that 'looks good'. |
Brownbeauty123
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Username: Brownbeauty123
Post Number: 353
Registered: 03-2006
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Votes: 0 (Vote!) | | Posted on Saturday, June 24, 2006 - 11:47 am: |
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He lives in the city.
And he doesn't work, so he has no money to buy a car. Majority of the time he tries to catch rides with friends to get to whereever he wants to go.
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