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Votes: 0 | | Posted on Monday, May 02, 2005 - 01:27 am: | |
To write or not to write, that is the question.
Kola,
I have only known about your existence less than a week but I must say that I respect you greatly for being a person who knows where she stands. In a way I understand where you are coming from.But at the same time you are so right when you say I can never FULLY understand, because I have not faced the same experiences of "real black woman" has. However that doesn't mean I don't care.
I understand how you feel that black families need to stay within the race in order not to have a entire culture wiped out. I know what it is to not grow up with a culture. My parents "americanized" (my mom is from the islands) me. It's like floating around with no roots.I think this has influenced my decision to probably not have children.I don't want to raise them as people without a culture. So I understand why you fight so desperately to save your roots.
However, I just can't stop but think how similar your beliefs and words are to those of white supremicists. And also your attacks on individuals who have no control over their skin tone rather then the society that encourages it bothers me. But you are totally allowed to have those feelings.
I hope I am not sounding like I am dismissing the problems facing black women. I do believe they have incredible odds to fight in order to find happiness, love, and success. I truly do believe that. But I believe some women (not all) are too quick to use these barriers to explain everything going on in their life. These play a role in their problems, of course, but women need to give themselves a real critical look to discover what they are doing to that makes these barriers even harder to overcome. That's what I mean. I think people need to realize and acknowledge the social barriers and racism in society.But they also need to take personal responisiblity for the actions that hold them back.
Hope that makes sense. And thank you Kola for the post in the Gas thread.
I could see myself spending HOURS having a conversation with you in person. Godspeed and good luck on you interviews and tour.
~Delores |