|Posted on Saturday, June 21, 2003 - 06:45 am: |
ABM, though I've never been a big comic book fan, I have to say that I thoroughly agree that black women tend to look in the wrong places and look for the wrong things when they're looking for love. That is especially true in that age range between 13 (when the hormones really start kicking) and 30 (when the ticking of the proverbial biological clock starts to become audible). Of course, there are exceptions to this--some women, being wise beyond their years, get it when they're younger and find a good man to be with. Others, in their 40s and beyond, are still playing the games and striking out or have been burned so many times they now watch from the sidelines.
I once told a friend of mine in college--a large, state-supported school where about 3,000 of the 26,000+ student population was black--that I would be at least 30 before I found a woman who appreciated what I brought to the table. My experience with allegedly enlightened woman, up until the time I did hit 30, kept reinforcing that belief.
What's most frustrating is to see good woman not understand what a good man really is. It's not necessarily the guy who looks great in a suit or drives a nice car or can turn up the heat in bed, although to be fair, there are some good brothers out there who can do those things. But it's the man who stands up to shake another man's hand, who takes time to share what he knows with those who will follow after him, and who has a clear idea of who he is and what he wants to do. That's not exciting, that's not glamarous, and it may be downright boring to a lot of women. But as they get older, stability and steadiness become much sexier qualities than muscle tone and horsepower.