|Posted on Saturday, August 06, 2005 - 12:11 pm: |
African Queen, thank you. You have made a good point. It IS a lot of Black on Black racism as well. I live in ATlanta, and we have a small Sudanese and a large Somali community.
My sister once made fun of a Sudanese, and the first thing I told her was "you're a nigger just like he is." I never heard her make fun of African people after that anymore. (Not in front of me anyway)
As a dark skinned person, you may take things said to you in a different way, and I thank you for pointing it out to me.
I perhaps take it differently, because to me, I see it as their trying to make me feel somehow "superior" to other black people, and I really don't appreciate that. It actually pisses me off. I'm not ashamed to be black, and I'm not trying to distance myself from Africa.
No one here has to believe who I am or not, my email (I'm assuming) is attached to my name if you want to check. If not, just ask for it.
But I am upset that you, Cinnique, are treating me EXACTLY like white people do: INSISTING to me that I HAVE TO BE part white, when I KNOW for a FACT that I'm not. Why would a white man CARE if I'm part white or not? When they're interested in me, it's a big deal.
And you Africanqueen, will see that that's probably a little of where this black on black racism stems from, us trying to prove ourselves to be part of the white man, hoping that will earn us his respect. These other children mistreated you because you were so obviously NOT mixed with white blood, and they were disgusted by full black blood. And I'm sad that we've come to this.
Thank God, there was no colorism in my family. Half of us didn't realize we were light skinned until we started school.
I've met a few white guys who didn't have colorism, I must admit. They dated dark skinned, light skinned, Asian, etc..... Then there were those who I HATED, who only dated bi-racial or light skinned girls, didn't have dark skinned friends, made a point of showing off his girlfriend to his white friends as "proof" that he's not prejudice, then in the same breath point out her skin color. My STUPID sister dates guys like this. Makes her feel special to be accepted by a white guy, I suppose. I point out to her that if she refused to go by his "you must be part white" crap, he would dump her before God could figure it out. (oh, yeah, this IS THE SAME sister who makes fun of dark skinned people ...isn't that just DISGUSTING!) She'll make fun of a black man, and then run off to her WHITE boyfriend who points out how NON-black she is. Must be the Black American dream!