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Post Number: 2244
|Posted on Friday, January 08, 2010 - 11:21 am: |
"”It's not like black women have imposed race restrictions on themselves.”
I have to disagree with that Ms. C. I read (and have personally heard) black women proclaim their faith to the race and will not date anyone other than a black man. Many black women take a sneering glee at accusing black men of so-called "jungle fever" or not being attracted to black women. Most of the whining about not being able to find suitable or desirable black men comes from black women who refuse to consider dating non-black men. Personally, I think this is a mistake given the gravity of the dating scene that so many black women profess to.
”Many are open to diversifying their dating pool but men of other races do not exhibit a great affinity for black women so,…..”
Yep…..Unfortunately, this is true. But I think it is slowly changing. I see more white and Latino guys with black women than I saw, say, twenty years ago. In fact, when I go to the NEX or commissary, I often times will see a white guy with a black woman and they will have children. Never saw that when I first came in the military.
”…as usual, sistas are left to wallow at the bottom of the totem poll.”
Wow! Sad, but very true………
”You have to wonder what black women did to deserve such a fate in life?”
Ya know, I believe there is something a number of black women can do. It will not completely turn the tide and make non-black men rush to black women but I am sure it could increase the dating hopes of a number of black women. I know this is a uber sensitive issue with black women and most will not allow the completion of the thought without resorting to screeching, histrionics and hysterically filibustering the discussion. A large number of black women could make themselves more attractive and competitive by reformatting the over compensative diva complex, loose the excessive weight and desist with the snarling attitude. Black women hear this over and over and over (from blacks and non-blacks), yet many will dig their heels in and deny that such changes need to be made or even that they exist. I have never understood such blatant denial of the obvious.
I have talked to three of my black female friends about this very subject and they were in total agreement since they see much of my suggestions in their personal black female friends. I’m sure a reasonable number of black women would find dating and serious relationship seeking mates (both black and non-black) easier if such adjustments were made. But figure the odds of that happening…..
”Historically, they've always held up their end and pulled their weight and done their best and their reward for being strong is how so many of them are relegated to a single lonely existence.”
LOL NTFS, that is so not true I really don't think you have as much insight into what is going on in the dating lives of black women as you pretend
I used to post on a lot of AA boards where a lot of black women frequent. And ALOT of them appear to be VERY open to dating outside their race, and many of them find men of other races attractive. Every week they were posting photos of men of different ethnicities that they found hot. And quite a few of them were married to non black men, and had pictures of them (husband, children) in their profiles. The site Nappturality has a lot of black women involved in interracial relationships.
"true. Unfortunately, from all the hysteria, blogs, talk shows and TV stories, black women seem to be suffering from the "suitable male companion syndrome".
Yeah but blogs, & talk shows are quite unreliable. Blogs in particular are common for posting a lot of hate messages becuause they are not moderated at all. On many blogs you see alot of hate posts from racist white people all the time about black and latinos. Its certainly not a credibly resource for what is really going on with black women or any group of people. And talk shows are all about sensationalism ala Tyra Banks. They pick the black women who fit the worst stereotype and just run with it.
I hear interracial dating is more common between Black women & non black men outside the states like Canada. I know a lady who lives in Canada and she says its not uncommon to see white men with very dark black women. The culture is quite different over there.
I really don't see a lot of single black women. Where I'm from its uncommon to see anybody not coupled up with another person. Everybody is involved with somebody. Most men think that I'm married or seriously involved with somebody-so the sterotype that all black women are single, lonely, and childless is just untrue. The media needs to stop this garbage